Archive for January, 2013

Life is full of decisions. That seems like a very obvious statement, I know.  But, have you ever made a bad decision?  Have you ever made a really bad decision?  My guess is that you have, I know I have.

If your current filter for making decisions is ‘how close can I get without getting hurt?’ that doesn’t seem very smart.  Or if your current filter is ‘how close can I get to sin without actually sinning?’ that seems very dangerous.  Unfortunately though, that’s what guys sometimes do.

If you are looking for a couple of filters to help you make decisions I’d like to offer a couple that will help you in my humble opinion. First and foremost is prayer and God’s Word. Are you praying about your circumstances? Are you praying and asking the Holy Spirit to guide you in your decision making process? Are you filtering the decisions of life through scripture? The best way to do that BTW, is to be in God’s Word everyday.

Second, I’d like to recommend a book to you. It’s by Andy Stanley and its called “The Best Question Ever”. Now I’m going to give you the question here but in order to really get the context, I recommend reading the whole book. That’s right boys cover to cover. Here’s the question: “In light of my past experiences, my current responsibilities, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?”

Not that any one book like “The Best Question Ever” alone will make things 100% better, it won’t. We must, you and I, ground our lives and our decisions in God’s Word. However, there are lots of great books out there that can give us some great practical advice for winning some of the battles in life.

Our lives are built on and around relationships. We all have people in our lives that we need to build right relationship with and building those right relationships is a hard thing to do. Building anything takes effort and so do our relationships.

 For men, there are some relationships that we just have to get right. Our relationship with Jesus is always first as our Lord and Savior.

 We need to have a right relationship with ourselves, knowing who we really are. We need to know what our strengths are and know our areas of weakness, those things that tempt us to lose focus.

 Men need to have some friends in their lives with similar moral convictions. We need guys who we can do life with, guys who we can count on and who can count on us.

 We all need to understand what our relationship with our wife should look like and do our best to understand her heart. We need to understand what our role is in marriage and develop that to be the best husbands.

 It would seem that in our culture, our families need work. For God’s men building and supporting our families the right way should be a priority and not take second place to work or hobbies or anything else.

 These relationships take effort, they aren’t always easy but they are at the core of who we are. If you need some work on one or all of these areas in your life, come join us for Core Health at Bethel Church.

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