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I had lunch with a buddy yesterday. We talked about life and ministry. We talked about how great our spouses are and our kids. We also talked about how no matter how much we try, how hard we work at it that we always mess up (sin) and how grateful we are for Christ’s sacrifice for us as sinners, for God’s grace and for forgiveness. 

He talked about how great it would be for men to do one simple thing for their family members each day. That one thing was before leaving the house each morning to go to each of our kids and to our wife and lay a hand on their shoulder and say a quick prayer. Whether they are awake or asleep, it doesn’t matter. Asking that the Lord’s power and presence would be powerfully shown in their lives that day.

I started this morning and am going to do this each day for a week as best I can. So, if you are up for the challenge join me. If you do and you end up with a cool story that comes out of this please let me know, you can email your story to

Stronger Together boys, Stronger Together!


Life is full of decisions. That seems like a very obvious statement, I know.  But, have you ever made a bad decision?  Have you ever made a really bad decision?  My guess is that you have, I know I have.

If your current filter for making decisions is ‘how close can I get without getting hurt?’ that doesn’t seem very smart.  Or if your current filter is ‘how close can I get to sin without actually sinning?’ that seems very dangerous.  Unfortunately though, that’s what guys sometimes do.

If you are looking for a couple of filters to help you make decisions I’d like to offer a couple that will help you in my humble opinion. First and foremost is prayer and God’s Word. Are you praying about your circumstances? Are you praying and asking the Holy Spirit to guide you in your decision making process? Are you filtering the decisions of life through scripture? The best way to do that BTW, is to be in God’s Word everyday.

Second, I’d like to recommend a book to you. It’s by Andy Stanley and its called “The Best Question Ever”. Now I’m going to give you the question here but in order to really get the context, I recommend reading the whole book. That’s right boys cover to cover. Here’s the question: “In light of my past experiences, my current responsibilities, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do?”

Not that any one book like “The Best Question Ever” alone will make things 100% better, it won’t. We must, you and I, ground our lives and our decisions in God’s Word. However, there are lots of great books out there that can give us some great practical advice for winning some of the battles in life.

Our lives are built on and around relationships. We all have people in our lives that we need to build right relationship with and building those right relationships is a hard thing to do. Building anything takes effort and so do our relationships.

 For men, there are some relationships that we just have to get right. Our relationship with Jesus is always first as our Lord and Savior.

 We need to have a right relationship with ourselves, knowing who we really are. We need to know what our strengths are and know our areas of weakness, those things that tempt us to lose focus.

 Men need to have some friends in their lives with similar moral convictions. We need guys who we can do life with, guys who we can count on and who can count on us.

 We all need to understand what our relationship with our wife should look like and do our best to understand her heart. We need to understand what our role is in marriage and develop that to be the best husbands.

 It would seem that in our culture, our families need work. For God’s men building and supporting our families the right way should be a priority and not take second place to work or hobbies or anything else.

 These relationships take effort, they aren’t always easy but they are at the core of who we are. If you need some work on one or all of these areas in your life, come join us for Core Health at Bethel Church.

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Living It Out

Posted: December 11, 2012 in Coming Up, Standing Strong

Having a healthy head is important, to know the truth from God’s Word. But, we need to have healthy hearts as well. Unfortunately, and too often men do the work to gain the head knowledge but don’t do the heart work of putting the knowledge into practice. Guys go to church to hear a great sermon and can recall all the details of the sermon. They attend small group and do great at answering questions about the sermon and the commentary of the scriptures. They may even attend a class to ‘dig deeper’ and still struggle to put the words and lessons into practice in their lives. Jesus talked about putting the words into practice in our lives.

 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock” Matt 7:24

 Catch that?  He said hears the words and puts them into practice is like a wise man, not just hears the words.

 Later in the Book of James we see the very same thing in James 1:19-25. Go read it for yourself. In verse 22 he writes Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. There’s a do there and that do is often what keeps men from really impacting those around them for the kingdom. Nobody is saying that it’s easy to put the words into practice. You have to take some risks to put the words into practice. But in doing the hard part you may be risking what people might think or in doing what is right, you may have to show what lies under the exterior. You may actually have to show what’s in your heart and not just what’s in your head.

We are all tempted to keep it all inside and not reveal our hearts, it’s safer that way. At least that’s what we think. If you struggle with not doing what you are hearing and reading in God’s Word then check out Core Health For Men, it starts in January. In the Temptation small group  you will find some tools necessary for men to stand strong against the temptation of not doing and practicing what God’s Word tells us to do.